Our Inner Schemas

Our Inner Schemas

Our Inner Schemas

Within all of us there lives tiny versions of ourselves. As adults, these tiny versions often lay dormant; however, specific situations can trigger deep seated feeling memories, bringing to the surface our child within. When triggered, we feel emotions that are more intense, and urgent. We are also prone to act in ways which are often irrational and self-centered. These intense emotions are indicators of key schemas, or deeply ingrained behavior patterns, which keep us stuck, revisiting traumas of the past.

Moving forward can often be a difficult task. As our maladaptive schemas feel familiar, letting go of them can often feel like challenging our identities. These schemas are common narratives such as abandonment, detachment, vulnerability, subjugation, or failure

Mindfulness is a powerful tool which can help direct us away from the painful emotions of the past and future, routing us back to the present moment. By being mindful we can also become more aware of the schemas which help cause chaos in our lives.

But most of all we must love the tiny us that longs to be understood. As we grown and come to understand the pain and loss we have felt, we come to terms with our reality. We then get the chance to become our own parent, soothing our inner child, and giving to ourselves the love, devotion, and attention we missed out on growing up.

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